Although I’m in a committed long-term relationship, I find myself still dating people. How’s that possible without the love of my life divorcing and/or castrating me? Well, it’s because finding collaborators is my new dating life and so far I can’t figure out how to move beyond friend zone or f**k buddy status.
This all comes on the heels of Chakktor and I parting ways on The Gibbler Podcast. Don’t expect any juicy gossip; we simply have different priorities at the moment, but that’s still the homie. Also, The Gibbler will continue in one form or another so it’s not like the concept is ready for the grave. Still, I can’t say it isn’t disappointing to have a collaboration… wait for it… separation.
I’m good at words and stuff.
Thing is, this is FAR from the first time I’ve experienced this. In fact, I honestly don’t know if I’ve ever had a truly successful collaboration on a side project/venture with anyone. Stuff for school and work, sure, but that success was found in necessity, not passion.
Now that I’m at a point in my life where I’m passionate about all my endeavors (there were a couple times in the past when I was the flaky one… sorry Pat), I’m seriously struggling to find an ideal collaborator. Hell, I’d settle for one that sticks around for the long haul. That’s some desperate, I-should-be-married-by-now thinking right there, but I’m between a rock and a hard place at this point. My goals are pretty lofty and I’m getting tired of being the sole driving factor of… everything.
In my younger, more innocent days, I used to think being really close friends with a female meant we would be ideal together in a romantic relationship. That backwards ass thinking is what kept me in the friend zone for oh so many years with various women. It used to annoy the hell out of me until it dawned on me that I was doing it to myself by setting expectations on people with whom I have some level of of chemistry, but are ultimately…
It’d be awesome if my friends wanted the same thing as me (with some level of consistency), but at the end of the day, they’re likely not my ideal collaborative partners. They’re just the best people I have to which I have immediate access. May sound cold, but I’ve experienced this since my grade school days when my homie AJ and I decided to make and sell our own Ninja Turtle comics. I’ve accumulated damn near 30 years of experience in unsuccessful collaborations with friends!
So what’s a brother to do? I’m not profitable yet, so I can’t deal with paying anyone more than a part time VA at best. I ran a quick search online and the platforms for meeting potential collaborators I found appear more focused on pure business ideas or development projects, neither of which fit what I’m looking for (i.e. a creative, socially-aware forward thinker with some level of control of their ADD).
I guess what I’m saying is, can someone make an OKCupid for collaborators already? Or if that exists, point me in the right direction stat!
Or… maybe I’ll get lucky and that perfect collaborator will stumble into my life at just the right time. After all, it happened with my fiance. So maybe, just maybe, your boy simply needs a touch of patience. That still won’t stop me from searching though.
Peace out, party people.
Previously: What Tone Are You Setting for the Day?